My Grandma's "Cookie Jar" Relationship Theory
My grandma's theory states that men will take as much as you let them in dating, unless you set boundaries. This concept is illustrated by the idea of a "cookie jar," where men will take cookies (or attention and affection) as long as the lid is open.
A personal story illustrates this theory. My sister Jilly and I were discussing her friend's relationship with a guy who hadn't taken her on a real date in three months. My grandma chimed in, "What do they do, braid each other's hair?"
Grandma said, "Hang on, he's neva taken her to dinner? What do they do, braid each other's hair?"
Jilly explained that her friend would often hang out at the guy's apartment, watching Netflix, getting takeout, or going for a morning coffee walk. This behavior suggests a lack of effort and commitment from the guy.
- Men will take as much as you let them in dating
- Setting boundaries is essential in relationships
- Early boundaries are not scary, but a necessary litmus test
Author's summary: Grandma's "Cookie Jar" theory offers insight into men's behavior in relationships.